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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
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@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
Then it will be my problem when I start working there. I can't fix everyone, and some people aren't interested in being fixed.
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.!
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
If you end up working there, I guess either you know things are going to change, or you should be looking for another job ASAP.
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
I was dumped with a broken infrastructure where everything is IPOD. At that point it becomes "My Monkey. My Circus. Get OUT! Let me do my thing."
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
Two reasons. One, we should always keep it professional. And two, keeping it professional adds more weight to the point.
OKAY, so lets go back a few months (I've already mentioned it in this thread, but no response yet).
The guy who built a really expensive IPOD on Spiceworks, with tons of pictures etc, was completely ashamed about it around page 2. The topic started of with a buttercup approach. The OP devolved it into a topic where the only way to respond was to call it for what it was.
Do you recall the topic from a few months back?
Sounds familiar. That one was fine. And I think it was on SW for deleting it to hide the shame from future posters.
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@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
Then it will be my problem when I start working there. I can't fix everyone, and some people aren't interested in being fixed.
That is not the mentality that I take with the topics, I approach it as, "Hey..... you really should try to do this instead". Even if people aren't interested in being fixed, them having the knowledge might prod them to fix it.
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@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
Then it will be my problem when I start working there. I can't fix everyone, and some people aren't interested in being fixed.
My theory is that I cannot fix them, but I can offer them the info that they and others threading their thread need to know. I don't allow them to get automatic sugar coating and circle jerking congratulations by people who are looking for confirmation that their own mistakes were acceptable or even good. I can't make them see reason, but I can give them the information to self evaluate if they care.
My theory is, I don't care how many "guilty" get hurt as long as the innocent never get passed over for help in the hopes of not hurting someone guilty of not wanting help but just looking for valueless approval.
I don't make the guilty look bad to make them look bad, I do it because I refuse to let someone innocent who wants to learn and do the right thing get screwed because people were playing this game of circular self congratulations.
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
Then it will be my problem when I start working there. I can't fix everyone, and some people aren't interested in being fixed.
That is not the mentality that I take with the topics, I approach it as, "Hey..... you really should try to do this instead". Even if people aren't interested in being fixed, them having the knowledge might prod them to fix it.
My comment was in the context of your "jackass conversation" comment. When they hit that point, or look like they're going to start there I walk away. In general, I try to suggest ways of doing things better when people ask and I know. If it looks like they're just trying to get validation for poor decisions and not actually wanting input then I drop it.
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Why must a conversation be so political correct (buttercup approached) if it is clearly a jackass conversation.
I don't get involved in those, or I exit them when they take a downward turn. Not worth my time or energy.
And what if you end up working for this place? You nor I know where they are, and hopefully the problems are addressed and fixed rather than getting dumped onto the next person in the commanders chair.
Then it will be my problem when I start working there. I can't fix everyone, and some people aren't interested in being fixed.
That is not the mentality that I take with the topics, I approach it as, "Hey..... you really should try to do this instead". Even if people aren't interested in being fixed, them having the knowledge might prod them to fix it.
It's VERY important that the right course of action might not be to change anything. In the example of an IPOD, choosing the IPOD is rarely the right choice but replacing one that is already there is not likely the best choice either (we have to make some pretty huge assumptions for that to be true.)
What's important is for the OP to understand, if it is true, that their actions were a mistake and a post mortem shows bad decision making processes. This allows them to correct their own thinking or their company's processes for next time. And it lets others reading along learn from their mistakes instead of learning their mistakes.
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@Kelly said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
If it looks like they're just trying to get validation for poor decisions and not actually wanting input then I drop it.
The only issue with that is that places like SW (but this is a generic problem) start to become a marketing tool for vendors to show the vast pool of people who do things. "See these examples of customers who had a positive experience doing this thing that I am trying to sell you on?"
Those threads need the evidence as to why their thought processes or decisions were questionable.
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@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@MattSpeller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@MattSpeller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Yet I don't feel that we've bashed, we've discussed their topics, and how to address the issues / initially configure the issues.
This has been one of the exceptionally few things that bothers me about this forum. For my two cents I think we should keep the cross linking to a bare minimum and for interesting / news topics only. It does not "feel right" most of the time when I read about posts from there.
This community can be a little... predatory... on the folks less experienced in IT. Well intentioned, absolutely. But a little vicious to the unwary.
Well, this very community IS IT. Also, ML's NodeBB is a very fast paced system, that's another problem / feature.
To take up some cludges for @DustinB3403, it was not him alone. We're all shaking our heads about all the quiz questions, @Dashrender called it "beating a dead horse", just for example.
It's very fast paced and ruthless - which is I think some of this place's best qualities. Just need to be careful we don't "eat our young" as it were.
Very true. No doubt that the pace is the strength. But boy does it put pressure on new posters. Especially if they are used to a slow platform and have no idea that things are basically instant.
If you are used to communities where responses wait for emails to go out on a schedule, then people respond eventually... this place is SO different.
That's still a problem for me. Wrote my above post 3 times because I need to follow the discussion, translate, adapt the post... rinse and repeat. Final post was way shorter than initially planned. Like 1/10th of the length.
Good for improving English quickly! Feel free to post in German and slow us down.
Very true. Aber ihr wollt nicht wirklich, daß ich hier auf Deutsch schreibe. Ohne Google Translator versteht ihr sowieso kein Wort. Auf der anderen Seite, ich könnte euch einen vom Pferd erzählen und würde immer noch Upvotes bekommen. Mh, mal drüber nachdenken
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@Jstear And now David is deleting my replies.
Awesome, so I can't even approach the OP publicly to let them know that other conversations are going on.
David can eat a bag of *****
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@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@MattSpeller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@MattSpeller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Yet I don't feel that we've bashed, we've discussed their topics, and how to address the issues / initially configure the issues.
This has been one of the exceptionally few things that bothers me about this forum. For my two cents I think we should keep the cross linking to a bare minimum and for interesting / news topics only. It does not "feel right" most of the time when I read about posts from there.
This community can be a little... predatory... on the folks less experienced in IT. Well intentioned, absolutely. But a little vicious to the unwary.
Well, this very community IS IT. Also, ML's NodeBB is a very fast paced system, that's another problem / feature.
To take up some cludges for @DustinB3403, it was not him alone. We're all shaking our heads about all the quiz questions, @Dashrender called it "beating a dead horse", just for example.
It's very fast paced and ruthless - which is I think some of this place's best qualities. Just need to be careful we don't "eat our young" as it were.
Very true. No doubt that the pace is the strength. But boy does it put pressure on new posters. Especially if they are used to a slow platform and have no idea that things are basically instant.
If you are used to communities where responses wait for emails to go out on a schedule, then people respond eventually... this place is SO different.
That's still a problem for me. Wrote my above post 3 times because I need to follow the discussion, translate, adapt the post... rinse and repeat. Final post was way shorter than initially planned. Like 1/10th of the length.
Good for improving English quickly! Feel free to post in German and slow us down.
Very true. Aber ihr wollt nicht wirklich, daß ich hier auf Deutsch schreibe. Ohne Google Translator versteht ihr sowieso kein Wort. Auf der anderen Seite, ich könne euch einen vom Pferd erzählen und würde immer noch Upvotes bekommen. Mh, mal drüber nachdenken
I can tell you one from his horse
Google translate fail.
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@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Jstear And now David is deleting my replies.
Awesome, so I can't even approach the OP publicly to let them know that other conversations are going on.
David can eat a bag of *****
SW can't allow people to post links that steal their conversations to other forums.. they need to keep everyone there.
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@Dashrender said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@scottalanmiller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@MattSpeller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@MattSpeller said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
Yet I don't feel that we've bashed, we've discussed their topics, and how to address the issues / initially configure the issues.
This has been one of the exceptionally few things that bothers me about this forum. For my two cents I think we should keep the cross linking to a bare minimum and for interesting / news topics only. It does not "feel right" most of the time when I read about posts from there.
This community can be a little... predatory... on the folks less experienced in IT. Well intentioned, absolutely. But a little vicious to the unwary.
Well, this very community IS IT. Also, ML's NodeBB is a very fast paced system, that's another problem / feature.
To take up some cludges for @DustinB3403, it was not him alone. We're all shaking our heads about all the quiz questions, @Dashrender called it "beating a dead horse", just for example.
It's very fast paced and ruthless - which is I think some of this place's best qualities. Just need to be careful we don't "eat our young" as it were.
Very true. No doubt that the pace is the strength. But boy does it put pressure on new posters. Especially if they are used to a slow platform and have no idea that things are basically instant.
If you are used to communities where responses wait for emails to go out on a schedule, then people respond eventually... this place is SO different.
That's still a problem for me. Wrote my above post 3 times because I need to follow the discussion, translate, adapt the post... rinse and repeat. Final post was way shorter than initially planned. Like 1/10th of the length.
Good for improving English quickly! Feel free to post in German and slow us down.
Very true. Aber ihr wollt nicht wirklich, daß ich hier auf Deutsch schreibe. Ohne Google Translator versteht ihr sowieso kein Wort. Auf der anderen Seite, ich könne euch einen vom Pferd erzählen und würde immer noch Upvotes bekommen. Mh, mal drüber nachdenken
I can tell you one from his horse
Google translate fail.
Sayings in Google Translator don't work very well: https://www.dict.cc/?s=einen+vom+Pferd+erzählen
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@Dashrender said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Jstear And now David is deleting my replies.
Awesome, so I can't even approach the OP publicly to let them know that other conversations are going on.
David can eat a bag of *****
SW can't allow people to post links that steal their conversations to other forums.. they need to keep everyone there.
Yeah, but deleting the whole post? He could remove the links and post an answer, for example.
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@thwr said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Dashrender said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Jstear And now David is deleting my replies.
Awesome, so I can't even approach the OP publicly to let them know that other conversations are going on.
David can eat a bag of *****
SW can't allow people to post links that steal their conversations to other forums.. they need to keep everyone there.
Yeah, but deleting the whole post? He could remove the links and post an answer, for example.
removing the links still tells other people that someone is talking about these things elsewhere. They don't want that.
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@Dashrender said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Jstear And now David is deleting my replies.
Awesome, so I can't even approach the OP publicly to let them know that other conversations are going on.
David can eat a bag of *****
SW can't allow people to post links that steal their conversations to other forums.. they need to keep everyone there.
This always has to be done via PM. No matter what forum you are talking about they don't want things to leave the community.
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@Minion-Queen said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Dashrender said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@DustinB3403 said in Is it bashing to ask what other were thinking:
@Jstear And now David is deleting my replies.
Awesome, so I can't even approach the OP publicly to let them know that other conversations are going on.
David can eat a bag of *****
SW can't allow people to post links that steal their conversations to other forums.. they need to keep everyone there.
This always has to be done via PM. No matter what forum you are talking about they don't want things to leave the community.
I once had a post removed from Experts Exchange due to posting an answer and sourcing another forum, from where I found the resolution. They can do this, as it is in there Terms of Use of using the site.
https://www.experts-exchange.com/terms.jsp
You shall not engage in any of the following activities, which are strictly prohibited under the Code of Conduct:
Posting links in open questions that encourage Members to use competing sites.
