@scottalanmiller said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@guyinpv said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
I know a lot of responses here might be "just leave", but these things are easier said than done. I don't want their business to suffer, nor our relationship, nor my reference with them.
No, not really. They are equally easy because telling you to do it is literally as easy as you calling in and saying "Im' done, bye, don't ever call me again."
Literally, that easy. You don't want their business to suffer? Why not? You are describing how awful these people are, and you want them to stay in business? That's not right.
Why do you want a relationship with them at all? These are terrible people. You need them out of your life.
You don't want them as a reference. These aren't ethical people, you can't safely use them as a reference regardless. Walk away.
All of your reasons for staying are false ones, there is no reason to stay.
Indeed I am a bit confused as to why someone who admits to themselves before they quit that they already know it will be a disaster, and that they map out all of the ways the management is a huge pain in the ass... so what benefit is it to maintain a relationship? With people like this even if you leave 100% like they want you to or expect you to, they'll still trash you in references, it always happens.
It's not your business, and presumably not run by a family member, so who the hell cares? It's capitalism, if they can't run a business correctly then it's their fault, not yours to help prop them up.
Lots of lecturing about how she doesn't know what some vendor or another does, and IT people have "secret knowledge" that is complicated so laypersons can't understand it. She says all my notes "might make sense to an IT person, but it's not how my brain as a layperson understands it".
To top it all off, she won't read stuff that's too long. If I send emails that are too long or detailed, she refuses to even read them and then chides me. But if I write stuff that's too short, she complains it's not written for the layperson.
She sounds like she's either totally stupid or insane, or really trying to manipulate you into doing more work and demean your job, and that seems more likely based on everything. Don't bother helping this psycho, don't feel guilty, do as @JaredBusch said:
Turn over passwords and walk the fuck out tomorrow..
And @scottalanmiller basically said all that needs to be said on this, at this point I think we'd all be repeating each other and if you aren't listening to it then you need to really change that mindset or just do whatever they want since that's the mindset you clearly want to be in despite obviously knowing how terrible of an idea it is -- remember even you said that you knew beforehand that it would be a disaster, why in the holy hell would you give them such a long notice and why would you put up with any of this after they started increasing your workload and reducing benefits?