Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
I guess you don't talk about the show directly following the show at all - so then many activities wouldn't be together time.
Once in a while, but not often. It's passive entertainment, not that much to discuss.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
I'd definitely argue that watching someone play a game is way more "together" than watching television. Instead of my daughter and I each watching actors do something, I'm watching my daughter do something. I'm actively involved in what she is doing, even if only a little, rather than both of us just watching someone else tell us stories.
I'll give you that you watching her do something, even something like playing a game - and likely you aren't watching her directly much of the time, vs say, if she was playing soccer - where you would be watching her, is together time - but I think the discussion is paramount to calling it together time.
Watching them play soccer ultimately only counts if 1) they know they are being watched by you, and 2) you discuss it afterwards, even if only to say - great game or them's the breaks.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
But you both at the kitchen table, you typing on ML, basically ignoring her - not in a mean way, but in the, I'm doing my own thing way, and her reading to herself or whatever... that's not family time, that's not hanging out.. at least not to me.
No more ignoring that if we were watching a show or eating food together. Same amount of interactivity.
Actually, we do more together this way. I watch HER play a game, not just watch the same thing that she is watching. And we discuss the game as she plays. We wouldn't do those things if eating or watching television.
So this is very much more interactive and more family time than the things most people consider family time.
you don't have family discussions while eating? you all just sit there in silence while eating? odd, at least to me.
Correct. Talking while eating at home really isn't a thing. I've never known anyone to do that like on television. It's weird. You are eating, not talking. Restaurants are different because most of the time is just sitting around waiting for food.
We definitely did what you see on TV when I was a kid. As adults I don't, unless, as you said, we're in a restaurant.
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Back to "just because you are getting paid doesn't mean that you are getting experience".... right now dealing with a different community forum that is broken. The same people have been running the site for many years. The same "not learning from their mistakes" is happening. If you go by job experience, it looks like they have tons of experience. If you look at passion, they don't really have any. The experience being gained working in their production environment is worth, essentially, zero. Even casual home lab experience would be a better example of useful experience. Just because it is production doesn't mean it is any good.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
I guess you don't talk about the show directly following the show at all - so then many activities wouldn't be together time.
Once in a while, but not often. It's passive entertainment, not that much to discuss.
So you're watching together only out of convenience, not out of a sense of spending time together.
I consider watching a show with my wife together time because we are discussing it while it's on or shortly after. But if she's watching some show I could care less about, she'd rather have me plopped down on the couch next to her playing on my laptop ignoring the TV than in the other room doing anything else. To her, the simply proximity is together time, drives me crazy.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
I guess you don't talk about the show directly following the show at all - so then many activities wouldn't be together time.
Once in a while, but not often. It's passive entertainment, not that much to discuss.
So you're watching together only out of convenience, not out of a sense of spending time together.
I consider watching a show with my wife together time because we are discussing it while it's on or shortly after. But if she's watching some show I could care less about, she'd rather have me plopped down on the couch next to her playing on my laptop ignoring the TV than in the other room doing anything else. To her, the simply proximity is together time, drives me crazy.
My wife is the same way.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
Sure, those conversations are definitely much easier, there is something happening and likely you are offering her suggestions on how to be better, or just simple encouragement.
I don't have kids, so I don't know how normal family with kids life is anymore. Perhaps the food prep person drops the food on the table, everyone arrives, chows and vanishes.. 15 mins tops and it's done. Definitely different from when I was a kid. You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
I guess you don't talk about the show directly following the show at all - so then many activities wouldn't be together time.
Once in a while, but not often. It's passive entertainment, not that much to discuss.
So you're watching together only out of convenience, not out of a sense of spending time together.
That's the nature of normal television, one of the reasons I don't like it.
There are exceptions, like Rick Steves shows, where we actively watch and discuss about places we want to go or whatever. Or home improvement shows and talk about houses, decorating, or whatever that we like. But most television, you just watch and its over, nothing to really discuss. Or the discussion is just.... empty.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
Sure, those conversations are definitely much easier, there is something happening and likely you are offering her suggestions on how to be better, or just simple encouragement.
I don't have kids, so I don't know how normal family with kids life is anymore. Perhaps the food prep person drops the food on the table, everyone arrives, chows and vanishes.. 15 mins tops and it's done. Definitely different from when I was a kid. You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
Even when I was a kid, we were always done eating before my mom even made it ot the table. Food prep always continued until the meal was already done.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
I guess you don't talk about the show directly following the show at all - so then many activities wouldn't be together time.
Once in a while, but not often. It's passive entertainment, not that much to discuss.
So you're watching together only out of convenience, not out of a sense of spending time together.
That's the nature of normal television, one of the reasons I don't like it.
There are exceptions, like Rick Steves shows, where we actively watch and discuss about places we want to go or whatever. Or home improvement shows and talk about houses, decorating, or whatever that we like. But most television, you just watch and its over, nothing to really discuss. Or the discussion is just.... empty.
For us, it's the only form of political discussion we get. She refuses to talk about political matters on their own.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
My wife's experience as a kid was that meal time was for kids to be silent and only the adults to talk and catch up on their days. When I was a kid, catch up was done when I got home, not hours later at dinner. Not that there was much to discuss, school is pretty bland until you are too old to share all of it.
I think to make "catch up at dinner" work, you have to eliminate most family time, which makes it an artefact of lacking family time, rather than a quality family time itself.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
Sure, those conversations are definitely much easier, there is something happening and likely you are offering her suggestions on how to be better, or just simple encouragement.
I don't have kids, so I don't know how normal family with kids life is anymore. Perhaps the food prep person drops the food on the table, everyone arrives, chows and vanishes.. 15 mins tops and it's done. Definitely different from when I was a kid. You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
Even when I was a kid, we were always done eating before my mom even made it ot the table. Food prep always continued until the meal was already done.
Yeah, I've been to other people's homes where that was the case - that always bothered me. In my house, no one ate until everyone was seated.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
Sure, those conversations are definitely much easier, there is something happening and likely you are offering her suggestions on how to be better, or just simple encouragement.
I don't have kids, so I don't know how normal family with kids life is anymore. Perhaps the food prep person drops the food on the table, everyone arrives, chows and vanishes.. 15 mins tops and it's done. Definitely different from when I was a kid. You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
Even when I was a kid, we were always done eating before my mom even made it ot the table. Food prep always continued until the meal was already done.
Yeah, I've been to other people's homes where that was the case - that always bothered me. In my house, no one ate until everyone was seated.
I hate that. Because someone is always distracted and won't sit down and eat with everyone. So everyone just sits there doing nothing being annoyed.
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Side note: one thing that I like about playing video games like Skyrim with the kids is that it prompts all kinds of discussions and learning. Like "what does that word mean" or "why are the politics like this."
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
My wife's experience as a kid was that meal time was for kids to be silent and only the adults to talk and catch up on their days. When I was a kid, catch up was done when I got home, not hours later at dinner. Not that there was much to discuss, school is pretty bland until you are too old to share all of it.
I think to make "catch up at dinner" work, you have to eliminate most family time, which makes it an artefact of lacking family time, rather than a quality family time itself.
We had little other actual family time. We rarely played games together, etc.
And hours later? What time did you eat? We were out of school at 3:30, but after I was ten, my mom worked until 5 or later, dad was normally home around 5:45. Mom came home and cooked, and dinner was at 6. So dad was only home for a few mins before we sat down.. and you didn't bother mom while she was cooking - or we just had our own things to do so we wanted to be elsewhere.
Dinner was often an hour long, talking, eating, etc.. .then poof - everyone went their own direction again.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
My wife's experience as a kid was that meal time was for kids to be silent and only the adults to talk and catch up on their days. When I was a kid, catch up was done when I got home, not hours later at dinner. Not that there was much to discuss, school is pretty bland until you are too old to share all of it.
I think to make "catch up at dinner" work, you have to eliminate most family time, which makes it an artefact of lacking family time, rather than a quality family time itself.
We had little other actual family time. We rarely played games together, etc.
That's my point. To make dinner seem like good family time requires all other family time to be worse. Instead of the opposite. Dinner is one of the times that we get the least time together.
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@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
Sure, those conversations are definitely much easier, there is something happening and likely you are offering her suggestions on how to be better, or just simple encouragement.
I don't have kids, so I don't know how normal family with kids life is anymore. Perhaps the food prep person drops the food on the table, everyone arrives, chows and vanishes.. 15 mins tops and it's done. Definitely different from when I was a kid. You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
Even when I was a kid, we were always done eating before my mom even made it ot the table. Food prep always continued until the meal was already done.
Yeah, I've been to other people's homes where that was the case - that always bothered me. In my house, no one ate until everyone was seated.
I hate that. Because someone is always distracted and won't sit down and eat with everyone. So everyone just sits there doing nothing being annoyed.
Well, tells those people to stop being rude! In our case - this was the way my dad liked it. We all sit at dinner, talking about the day, and near future going ons, eating then break.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
And hours later? What time did you eat? We were out of school at 3:30, but after I was ten, my mom worked until 5 or later, dad was normally home around 5:45.
I would get home from school around 4:30. Dad would get home around 6:30. So dinner was normally 7:00 - 7:30 if we didn't go out. That's three hours.
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@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@scottalanmiller said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
@dashrender said in Would You Hire Someone in IT Who Does Not Have a Home Lab:
As for food - again, if there is no discussion, then I'll agree, it's not together time, but that seems to be an exception, not the rule in most cases.
I don't know anyone like that at home, never have. If its the rule the exception seems to happen nearly all of the time. People sya that they talk ,but observe them, and they don't.
My daughter and I actively talk right now, while she is gaming and I am writing. And what we are talking about isn't obligatory "do you like that food" or "was that a good show" but talking about the thing that she is doing, rather than talking about something we both passively consumed.
Sure, those conversations are definitely much easier, there is something happening and likely you are offering her suggestions on how to be better, or just simple encouragement.
I don't have kids, so I don't know how normal family with kids life is anymore. Perhaps the food prep person drops the food on the table, everyone arrives, chows and vanishes.. 15 mins tops and it's done. Definitely different from when I was a kid. You're specific situation, and other homeschooling setups (so no, you're not a snowflake) where the parents are around the kids most if not the entire day, find less to hear about from their children during a meal, because they experienced it alongside their children all day, so there is no need for catching up.
Even when I was a kid, we were always done eating before my mom even made it ot the table. Food prep always continued until the meal was already done.
Yeah, I've been to other people's homes where that was the case - that always bothered me. In my house, no one ate until everyone was seated.
I hate that. Because someone is always distracted and won't sit down and eat with everyone. So everyone just sits there doing nothing being annoyed.
Well, tells those people to stop being rude! In our case - this was the way my dad liked it. We all sit at dinner, talking about the day, and near future going ons, eating then break.
You could have just talked before dinner, though
