Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be
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@guyinpv said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
And all I wanted to do was open up a conversation so they could start looking for a replacement. I wasn't expecting a circus.
What were you realistically expecting?
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Your mistake was trying to be nice. Learn from that. Next time, resign after finding a new role, tell them when you are going.
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@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@guyinpv said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
And all I wanted to do was open up a conversation so they could start looking for a replacement. I wasn't expecting a circus.What were you realistically expecting?
I think he had a pretty good idea, I mean both said he wasn't expecting a circus but considering what else he says I imagine deep down he knew it wouldn't be good:
I've been wanting to leave my messed up job for some time now, been there 8+ years. It's been a roller coaster with management here.
To top it all off, she won't read stuff that's too long. If I send emails that are too long or detailed, she refuses to even read them and then chides meBut then he goes on to basically explain an obvious problem that people get into who work for others for a long time, almost an employee-style Stockholm Syndrome.
I consider them friends and I'm happy to have worked here 8 years so I don't want our relationship to blow up at the last second and lose any kind of reference I might have here.
I don't want their business to suffer, nor our relationship, nor my reference with them.Undervalued, underpaid, still believes that such people will ever be a good reference for him, and yet wants to extend help as much as realistic even when admitting it'd take forever, i.e. be impossible.
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@tonyshowoff said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
But then he goes on to basically explain an obvious problem that people get into who work for others for a long time, almost an employee-style Stockholm Syndrome.
I've never once had a hard time about putting in my notice. So it honestly just doesn't register with me.
I've found a place willing to pay me more, give me better benefits, less hours etc etc and whatever. And with the current place you just list the things that suck about the job. Overworked, underpaid, understaffed, bad management.
When you go and sit down with your manager just create a mantra out of it in your head, more money, better management, better team, overworked underpaid, understaffed, bad management.
And end the meeting with "I'm leaving on <date>." Don't get dragged into conversations of "Can we discuss and try to fix these issues". Because you are then the employee who has tried to escape.
The one who is being watched constantly, where things are going to become more difficult to perform the same quality of work you have done previously.
So I leave when I say I'm done on <date>. And wish them luck from there. Nothing else to do with it.
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@guyinpv You aren't in Minnesota by chance are you? Sounds like my old boss went to bother you now
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Do you generally only give 2 weeks notice in the US?
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Finish up all the documents that you don't already have.
Copy all documents and passwords into a flash drive.
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@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Do you generally only give 2 weeks notice in the US?
Depends on the state. Wisconsin is a "hire at will" state. Technically no notice is needed but it is ideal to give 2 weeks.
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@Harry-Lui said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Finished up all the documents that you don't already have.
Copy all documents and password into a flash drive.
Hand it to her and walk out.I wouldn't even do that. I'd send one email "everything can be found here" and leave.
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@WLS-ITGuy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Do you generally only give 2 weeks notice in the US?
Depends on the state. Wisconsin is a "hire at will" state. Technically no notice is needed but it is ideal to give 2 weeks.
Wow. That must make succession planning a nightmare. I have to give 3 months notice, which is the norm in the UK.
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@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Do you generally only give 2 weeks notice in the US?
It's a courtesy to provide 2 weeks notice when leaving an employer in the US.
The employer may provide the courtesy if they have to let you go though, but in many cases I've seen it not provided.
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@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@WLS-ITGuy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
Do you generally only give 2 weeks notice in the US?
Depends on the state. Wisconsin is a "hire at will" state. Technically no notice is needed but it is ideal to give 2 weeks.
Wow. That must make succession planning a nightmare. I have to give 3 months notice, which is the norm in the UK.
Have to? As in you'll go to jail if you don't? Or another employer can't hire you for at least 3 months? Seriously, what happens to you if you just up and quit?
Also - are you in some special job - or government job that has this requirement - not the private sector?
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It's in my contract, so if I don't serve notice then I'm in breach of contract and could be sued for damages. No jail time though
Normal job. Private sector.
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@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
It's in my contract, so if I don't serve notice then I'm in breach of contract and could be sued for damages. No jail time though
Normal job. Private sector.
Interesting - I've personally never had an employment contract - It's rarely - if ever - a thing here in the US.
Sure there are terms, even in writing, but nothing I've even seen or heard of (in the US) that is an actual formal contract.
The main main exception has been around training. I've heard of many companies making employees sign a contract to stay for a min of X amount of time if the company provides/pays for training. Of course the company could still fire them, and I have no clue if the courts would make the employee pay back the training if they quit before X time. -
@Dashrender being paid to train is a legal process that an employer can require an employment term. Which if the employee is fired for cause could be required to pay the employer back.
It's not uncommon at all.
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@Carnival-Boy Now let's talk about 3 months. How many employers are going to be willing to wait 3 months for you to become free from your last job? Perhaps the 'demand' for 3 months notice is so prevalent there that most companies realize they have no choice. That could be said for our 2 week notice here in the US - i.e. a hiring company in the US generally expect a person to not be available for at least 2 weeks after accepting an offer because they will give 2 weeks notice to their current employer.
But 3 months - this really seems more like a way to keep people from moving around between companies, all the benefit to the company - and piss off mr employee.
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@DustinB3403 said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
@Dashrender being paid to train is a legal process that an employer can require an employment term. Which if the employee is fired for cause could be required to pay the employer back.
It's not uncommon at all.
If you're fired - I wouldn't expect to be required to pay anything back... but quitting - yeah I could see that. meh either way.
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@Dashrender Over in the EU the employers and employees have way more time off throughout the year than in the US.
I don't see anything abnormal here, and since it sounds like @Carnival-Boy is a contract employee it makes sense to have a leave clause.
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@Dashrender said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
But 3 months - this really seems more like a way to keep people from moving around between companies, all the benefit to the company - and piss off mr employee.
A bit, perhaps. But it works both ways. If they want to get rid of me, they also have to give me 3 months notice, which gives me plenty of time to find another job.
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@Carnival-Boy said in Finally leaving my job, and it's just as annoying as I thought it would be:
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Usually in the UK its 1 - 3 months notice from the employee... but often the employer only has to give you a few weeks/a month.
