What Are You Doing Right Now
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@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So your ex is just as crazy as all Ex's are, and trying to act predatory against you. . .
In a sense yes! LOL but what else is new?
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@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I was the only parent they saw at the time that week. She doesnt do what is required and they tell me about it basically. yeah, its great. I get to deal with all of the adult stuff basically because she wont.
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@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
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@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I was the only parent they saw at the time that week. She doesnt do what is required and they tell me about it basically. yeah, its great. I get to deal with all of the adult stuff basically because she wont.
And? Who they "see" doesn't determine the law. They can't have it both ways. If that logic was legal, you'd be sole guardian instantly as the only parent that they saw.
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@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I was the only parent they saw at the time that week. She doesnt do what is required and they tell me about it basically. yeah, its great. I get to deal with all of the adult stuff basically because she wont.
So then document all of it, bring it to your lawyer and fight the custody battle. If you are the responsible adult, you should have the kid, and get paid child support etc.
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@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster f*** of situation that i am cursed with basically -
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
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@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallyThat's all stuff for the lawyers to discuss with the school and the state, you shouldn't be involved with that. They shouldn't even be telling you. That they don't do what they are required to do isn't your problem.
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@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
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@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
That was my point. The school said "well dad always answers, lets call him". That is clearly a statement of faith that the judge never was able to see.
And would make for one hell of an argument in family court for a reversal of roles.
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@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
That was my point. The school said "well dad always answers, lets call him". That is clearly a statement of faith that the judge never was able to see.
And would make for one hell of an argument in family court for a reversal of roles.
They didnt even have my number until a week ago. But i see what your saying
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@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
That was my point. The school said "well dad always answers, lets call him". That is clearly a statement of faith that the judge never was able to see.
And would make for one hell of an argument in family court for a reversal of roles.
They didnt even have my number until a week ago. But i see what your saying
But if you were the emergency contact, how could they not have had your number? Something doesn't add up, maybe I missed a part of the topic or something.
But as it sounds, she is shirking her responsibility and expecting you to pick up after her. Which solely makes you the responsible adult in the arrangement. . .
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@jaredbusch said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dashrender said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@coliver said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dashrender said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@nerdydad said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dashrender said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dashrender said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@jaredbusch said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
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@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
My sons Daycare teachers just arrived for a home visit! this should be fun
Sounds weird, why would a daycare teacher show up at your residence. Is this like CPS or something?
Yearly home visits are standard practice in Japan.
And Omaha Ne ask well. Its one of their stipulations to my son being enrolled at their school.
Holy crap - what school is that?
Educare Kellom. Its state funded- thats their authority, they told me if they dont he gets kicked out.
Sure, you send your kid there, they get those choices. You always have the choice of sending your kid to another daycare.
I'm sure price is a factor in this decision.
Sadly this is very true - so it's what I consider another non constitutional form of search.
I don't follow. You are "buying" a service, as part of that payment they require that you get a visit from a teacher on a yearly basis. It was agreed to by the customer. Not sure I see any issues with this as it is an agreement between two parties.
That's not quite true in this case. This is the government providing a service and adding stipulations that aren't necessarily appropriate for the government to be adding. It's a bit of a grey area. Can the government forcibly search your home? No. Can they do it if you use their daycare? What if you use their roads, or water?
Exactly. They are exerting control over you that they don't really have the authority to do so.
Did you check the laws on that? How do you know they do not have this authority. You are injecting things that may or may not be true based on your personal bias.
You have me there - the state might have granted itself this authority through the use of it's programs - that's the part that seems at minimum unethical.
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@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs If you are receiving a subsidy from the state, there are bound to be requirements to receive the subsidy. This is one such requirement.
You are receiving low cost daycare, a requirement to that is an annual household checkup.
I get it, and don't disagree with there being stipulations on it. It makes sense to me, to ensure that the child is in a safe home etc.
Of course, I'm sure that these checkups then could evolve into CPS visits etc. But if it's not CPS, but a daycare provider. . . I guess I don't see why bother?
Why make the daycare provider (teacher) perform the check-in. Why wouldn't a CPS rep do this? I guess because you know the teacher, and no a random stranger from CPS. . .
Because they dont want to waste city services on something as simple as a home visit ( @Dashrender allow me to clarify - its more of a parent - teacher conference but in the comfort of your own home.
IF they had to do a full home sweep CPS would be called ( im sure) but that has hardly happened ( never for me )What a complete waste of time - so now you're telling us that the government is paying that person to drive to your home and all those associated costs so you can have an parent teacher conference, when you could simply stay at the school a bit longer when you pickup your child one day. /sigh.
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@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
That was my point. The school said "well dad always answers, lets call him". That is clearly a statement of faith that the judge never was able to see.
And would make for one hell of an argument in family court for a reversal of roles.
They didnt even have my number until a week ago. But i see what your saying
But if you were the emergency contact, how could they not have had your number? Something doesn't add up, maybe I missed a part of the topic or something.
But as it sounds, she is shirking her responsibility and expecting you to pick up after her. Which solely makes you the responsible adult in the arrangement. . .
basically - they had my number for emergency contacts i.e if he was sick at school or such i had to pick him up. but she's the 'main' on the account- making her number the first one they call in the event of things not being done such as a home visit-
I didnt get a call about it - i was told last week that it had to be done, or else he couldnt go back at all, so i just did what i had to do to keep him enrolled.
Now they have my number as a secondary contact in case she doesnt answer. and she know that now. -
@scottalanmiller said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
I'm not necessarily opposed to home visits. But personally, my feeling is that they should either be universal (every home, all the time) or should be blocked until there is reason to inspect. Not using low cost services as an excuse to use income disparity or social need as an excuse to inspect some people and not others (or some people with kids and not others.)
This becomes a form of discrimination. In the US we often accept discrimination based on income, but that's really not very sensible. And income is often tied to other factors, so it is automatically a proxy for those other factors.
my point exactly!
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@dashrender said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@dustinb3403 said in What Are You Doing Right Now:
@wrcombs If you are receiving a subsidy from the state, there are bound to be requirements to receive the subsidy. This is one such requirement.
You are receiving low cost daycare, a requirement to that is an annual household checkup.
I get it, and don't disagree with there being stipulations on it. It makes sense to me, to ensure that the child is in a safe home etc.
Of course, I'm sure that these checkups then could evolve into CPS visits etc. But if it's not CPS, but a daycare provider. . . I guess I don't see why bother?
Why make the daycare provider (teacher) perform the check-in. Why wouldn't a CPS rep do this? I guess because you know the teacher, and no a random stranger from CPS. . .
Because they dont want to waste city services on something as simple as a home visit ( @Dashrender allow me to clarify - its more of a parent - teacher conference but in the comfort of your own home.
IF they had to do a full home sweep CPS would be called ( im sure) but that has hardly happened ( never for me )What a complete waste of time - so now you're telling us that the government is paying that person to drive to your home and all those associated costs so you can have an parent teacher conference, when you could simply stay at the school a bit longer when you pickup your child one day. /sigh.
yep. pretty much
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I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
That was my point. The school said "well dad always answers, lets call him". That is clearly a statement of faith that the judge never was able to see.
And would make for one hell of an argument in family court for a reversal of roles.
They didnt even have my number until a week ago. But i see what your saying
But if you were the emergency contact, how could they not have had your number? Something doesn't add up, maybe I missed a part of the topic or something.
But as it sounds, she is shirking her responsibility and expecting you to pick up after her. Which solely makes you the responsible adult in the arrangement. . .
basically - they had my number for emergency contacts i.e if he was sick at school or such i had to pick him up. but she's the 'main' on the account- making her number the first one they call in the event of things not being done such as a home visit-
I didnt get a call about it - i was told last week that it had to be done, or else he couldnt go back at all, so i just did what i had to do to keep him enrolled.
Now they have my number as a secondary contact in case she doesnt answer. and she know that now.OK so the picture is coming together - they tried calling her for a home visit, she didn't answer - when they saw you - they assumed you were married/together with the mother (because they didn't bother to actually do research on the child) and told you about the required home visit. Now me - I would have been like - uh I don't have primary custody, do you still need to visit my home? and hopefully that would have sparked them actually doing their job and seeing you NOT listed as primary and then left you alone. But since you said - OK fine whatever, they just visited you. Now I'm assuming they realize their mistake, but meh, they can wait until the next required visit to actually visit the residence listed as primary.
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I guess the question is why aren't they speaking with the kids mother (or primary care taker and residence operator) rather than you?
It seems like an attempt to milk you for your money for your ex. . . . (wooh he just bought this. . . Take him to court to get more money)
(cynical me)
Because my ex wasnt answering her phone. She said it was my thing since i have weekdays off most times. But after today they have to go through her for all of that or she needs to add me as primary care giver on the account
So she doesn't do what is required and they don't care, but if you don't do what isn't required, they take action? Seriously, this is when lawyers step in. I'd be all over them for discrimination in a flash. They have legal responsibilities that they are shirking and are taking advantage of their position to basically threaten you.
I have to agree with @scottalanmiller here, if she isn't answering her phone that could be considered abandonment of the child. So why aren't they calling CPS on her, and bringing the child to the responsible parent who is answering the phone?
"Because she wasn't answering her phone" doesn't mean you kidnapped her, and have her locked up in your basement. So why "stop-in" and see what's up?!
Because she still picked up our son, but when she did the ones who stopped me arent there because its later than when I pick him up
And she claims she doesnt get calls but they text her too ( they have that option) and she resposes to some of them Its a huge cluster fuck of situation that i am cursed with basicallySo again, you should be documenting this and bring it up with your attorney to fight for sole custody and child support. I sure as shit would.
If she is shirking her responsibility as a parent, how is she a reasonable parent?
And, more importantly, the STATE has recognized you as the sole parent and has recognized that she has abandoned the child. The STATE has! The school, is a state agency, so that carries a LOT of weight. Right or wrong, the state has made one whopping statement there.
That was my point. The school said "well dad always answers, lets call him". That is clearly a statement of faith that the judge never was able to see.
And would make for one hell of an argument in family court for a reversal of roles.
They didnt even have my number until a week ago. But i see what your saying
But if you were the emergency contact, how could they not have had your number? Something doesn't add up, maybe I missed a part of the topic or something.
But as it sounds, she is shirking her responsibility and expecting you to pick up after her. Which solely makes you the responsible adult in the arrangement. . .
basically - they had my number for emergency contacts i.e if he was sick at school or such i had to pick him up. but she's the 'main' on the account- making her number the first one they call in the event of things not being done such as a home visit-
I didnt get a call about it - i was told last week that it had to be done, or else he couldnt go back at all, so i just did what i had to do to keep him enrolled.
Now they have my number as a secondary contact in case she doesnt answer. and she know that now.OK so the picture is coming together - they tried calling her for a home visit, she didn't answer - when they saw you - they assumed you were married/together with the mother (because they didn't bother to actually do research on the child) and told you about the required home visit. Now me - I would have been like - uh I don't have primary custody, do you still need to visit my home? and hopefully that would have sparked them actually doing their job and seeing you NOT listed as primary and then left you alone. But since you said - OK fine whatever, they just visited you.
yes just to get it out of the way so we didnt effect Caden by kicking him out.
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27 Tickets later and my day has been good
